"WHY DO THEY DO WHAT THEY DO?" wholesome, self-respecting women wonder...

How can a woman who is in the commercial pornography industry with any respect for herself, any woman, man and the human race do what she does, you wonder? How can she tear apart marriages, families, and poor, innocent children's lives whose parents split up because of what they provide? Is she possessed, you wonder?

98% OF WOMEN IN THE COMMERCIAL SEX INDUSTRY (STRIPPERS, PORN STARS, ETC.) WERE SEXUALLY MOLESTED WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER.

The sad truth is, these women don't have self-respect because they were not taught how to have any. They were taught the opposite. They are victims of sexual abuse. They do not know how to cope or deal with thier lives, so they go on destroying others by receiving sexual attention from others. This makes them feel wanted, even thought it makes us want vomit. They do not know how else to express themselves or to get attention and feel wanted.

The interesting thing is...Men who have sexual addictions are men you would never think would.
Many of them are active church members who hold signifigant callings or who serve in any calling. They are great fathers and hard workers at their job (minus the time spent on pornography.)
The truth is: they feel they have to make-up for the terrible mistakes they continue to make, yet they feel they have no control over the addiction. This leads them to working extra hard at work, working extra hard at parenting, even trying to be a better husband (although, because their minds are so distorted, the wives usually know something is seriously "off." It is just difficult to pinpoint what is wrong with the husbands.)
Many women who find out of their husbands pornography additions are SHOCKED because their husbands learned to hide it so well and cover it up by being a "saint" in every other area of their life.
The problem is, addiction progresses and for those men who are too overcome with shame and guilt, yet they can't admit thier wrongs and that they so desperately need help, something needs to happen to stop all of the pain of the guilt and shame, so...
some men have committed suicide,
or finally, they admit thier problem,
or they get caught in thier addiction.

The second scenario is the best case because they have come so extrememly low, they humbled themselves enough to actually tell someone.

When they get caught in their addiction, by their wife or someone else, they are angry, and reluctant to change. They may even resent what they learn about how to get out of it or resent the person who caught them. (It is a scary thought for them to have to "give up" their COPING MECHANISM that they have used for so many years.)

But, the great truth is that, through the mercy of our Savior, Jesus Christ, the men can come clean, repent, and heal. It is a long, difficult road, but the road of recovery is the only road to happiness and pure joy for them.

For you women who have husbands trying to repent...
Once the men confess to the bishop, you may think it is all in the past. What they have done is is the past, but their addiction remains. They may be in abstinence, yet their distorted minds remain the same until they are taught and given recovery tools to get out of the addiction, and get control of their lives and their minds again. It is not a simple process and no man can get out of the addiction with out learning how. Confessing is only the first small step. If that is as far as a man gets, he will resort to his addiction the next time he is overwelmed with stress, anger, fatugue, boredom or loneliness. He needs to learn about and learn to apply different coping tools in his life. It takes years and years of practice. It is hard work for both the man and his wife.

Do not just sit home and think it is over. It won't be until you get help. See a counselor who specializes in sexual addictions and don't just send your husband. You need to get out of "codependency." Now that is a word that involves a whole book. You are a co-addict when you have lived with an addict. We don't realize it, yet we are.

We, as women, need to get help also, to learn how to take control of our lives and learn to not in any way manage our husbands lives or their recovery. They need to take control of thier own recovery or it will not last. But, we need to learn what not to do and what to do so we can get out of the codepency mode. It is also very hard work, yet so enpowering.

Codependent No More by Melodie Beatie is a great book on codepency that every co-addict should get. Any person should read it for that matter. We all have codependent traits that we don't even realize.

DO NOT LET YOUR HUSBANDS PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION CONTINUE ANY LONGER OR HE WILL GO SEARCHING FOR OTHER REAL WOMEN (who he knows or in STRIP CLUBS)

MEN WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO WHEN THEY ARE ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY. --EVEN IF IT MEANS STEPPING OUT ON THIER WIVES...
This is the greatest lesson I wish I didn't have to learn firsthand, but I did, so hopefully, you can benefit.
If your husband has a pornography addiction and you know about it or only suspect it may be going on, you must know that ADDICTIONS ONLY GET WORSE!!!